Enigma

What perplexes me is how we live our lives dedicated to loving. We form our whole lives around loving. And to love is something complex and unique to every individual. It may be your child, partner, friends, house, job, clothes, possessions.... We love to love. We love with the word love written on our t- shirt and our body's and stamped on the inside of our brains. We want people to know we're lovable. We want people to love us. We want to be loved. Love.

We're entranced and we believe that these lovable relationships with rings and public displays of affection and the thousands we throw around for the "dream" wedding. (unbeknown to them they'll pay another couple thousand and them some for the "dream divorce") So the main point is that we want people to love us the way that we know that we can love them... It's a mutual understanding that the ultimate is to find that love of your life. That when you find that man or woman your world will be infinitely better and the sun will never shine as bright as when you meet the "right one".

Gosh it sounds so textbook written and yet those who don't have it want this love, fight for this love, crave for this love and those who have it take it for granted. We love to be loved, this is true but the real enigma that racks my brain to a million and one pieces: we don't love ourselves. We don't even like ourselves. We wallow in our self pity just because we don't have anyone to love us and we believe if we find that person we'll be so much better off... but no it can't and will never happen that way. Here's a lovely cliche from the average self help book : We can't love anyone before we learn to love ourselves. We can't love our neighbor like we love ourselves if we can't even look at ourselves in the mirror. Love yourself and then me... and then we can love each other... its a formula I believe will work and then you won't have to search for love you'll just be in love.

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